Friday, November 14, 2008


Well just to give you all an update about my last post.. I think my prayers have been answered! Last Sunday was a SUCCESS! I gave the lesson last week on being reverent and being respectful that I found in the YM's lesson and a few aricles that I read that Heather recommened.. So, it all started with all the YW waiting outside the door. I told them to get all of their wiggles out and if they needed to announce something to say it now or wait until after class.. So they talked for at least 15 minutes and told them ok it's time to start so before they went into the classroom I told them to be silent and listen.. Right when they walked in they were totally quiet because I had Paul Cardall CD in (Great pianist by the way). I had them listen to it for awhile and just jumped right into the lesson. They all listened and participated. I was very blunt with a few things like them being disrespectful at my house at last weeks activity. I think they all felt a little guilty, as I looked at each of them their eyes were shifting and didn't look up at me. It was pretty funny, even though my intention wasn't to make them feel guilty I just wanted them to think of what they do around others. I told them I was not mad I was just disappointed and I think I got the point accross to them that basically there is a time for fun and a time to listen and be respectful, and they need to think about the other persons feelings. I was happy with the way that they took the lesson and didn't fight back. I know that they took it to heart.One of the girls actually told me as we were driving to the activity last Tuesday that she is starting to be more respectful to her younger sister. YAY! But I realized after my lesson that I just need to give them tough love at times even though it is hard for me to do, because sometimes when I try to do that I can say the wrong thing. I felt so blessed after my lesson. I totally felt the spirit telling me what to say and how to approach it. I know that my prayers have been answered about this and I know there will be struggles here and there but I just have to learn from them and just know that I am called to serve these girls. And thank you all for your input on this! I appreciate it.

Wednesday, November 5, 2008


Ok so most fo you know that I am 1st couselor in the YW's in my ward.. Well I am not complaining or anything about it because I know that I was called by our Heavenly Father . And I know that he put me there for a reason. And I am learning so much! and I do love my calling, BUT! Not when the girls are disrespectful! (Charlotte, I hope you don't mind me venting) maybe I am being a snot about it or whatever but last night the girls were crazy!! I am sure none of them read my blog so I am just going to let it out. So we had YW's at my house because the girls wanted to learn how to make my strawberry cupcakes that I make and they decided the activity not the leaders so I was all for it. Well when they all got to my house they were so hyper and not listening or anything, in a way it hurt my feelings because I had prepared the ingrediants and shared my house. I was about to pull my hair out by the end of the night and I am sure Charlotte was too. HAHA. We ended YW's early because we probably had it with thier hyperness and craziness. BUT my point is that this is not the first time I have felt them being disrespectful. Whenever we try to teach a lesson I feel like they don't want to it so they talk about something that is completly off the subject. I don't remember doing this at all in YW's when I was growing up. (Jenny, was I like that in YW's, you were my leader was I disrespectful?) So,I am asking for some help? I have been praying but I would like some input. I feel as though the reason for them not treating me and Charlotte who is the yw's pres. is because we are 23 and 24 yrs old and they all know we were in YW's 5 or 6 yrs ago. But how do we as leaders show them that we are leaders and because of our age we need the respect that we need. Does that make sense? I know I am rambling on and on. But it can be so frusterating. I try to a leader who isn't mean or anything and I don't want to yell at them or anything but I feel like I need to do something in order for them to listen to us. Am I being a pushover? do I have "please do not listen to me I am only 23 yrs old and feel like I was just in YW's therefore walk all over me?" on my forhead?! Arggg.. Am i just being dumb? Or taking things to heart? I know they are young but still we are thier leaders! Ok I am done venting.
P.S sorry charlotte I had to vent and get feedback from my friends about this I hope you don't mind me venting like this. I do LOVE MY CALLING!